To the mother of my daughters friend:
You are also a friend to me! When I only had one child, it never really mattered. I never knew!! I just wanted to be the Perfect Mother! I didn’t notice that I needed time for myself, or that there would be times I would have to ask for help! I didn’t notice that I needed a support system. A person I could call on if I’m running late to after-school, or if my daughter needed a ride to soccer or basketball pratice! It didn’t dawn on me that not only did these support systems exsist, but that I could be a part of one!
Becoming a Mother of two, I started to notice! You helped me notice it was okay to let my daughter go on Vacation with a trusted family, instead of only being the parents that would allow other kids to join in on our family events! I noticed not only is it okay to have the need to reach out for help, it’s okay to ask!
It was amazing for me to feel I had someone I could call on, that not only did I trust, but knew we would would work together! Even if we had to pull the Misters on board! There was a time when I ran late to after school, and although you weren’t able to, you graciously called your husband who picked up my daughter with yours! My husband the same! Sometimes we even seem to know what the other needed, without asking. Like your first day back to work, sitting in the car at soccer pratice with the baby, I called you from the field and told you to go home!
Or the time you insisted I bring my baby to the sleepover, after our full day at the waterpark ! When our girls had an invite to an outdoor Ice skating event , in the Winter, far away, (driving far is torture for me!), you graciously took the girls and your baby stayed here, indoors with me! When you brought my daughter home , I was honored to have you leave both your girls here to have a date night! When I was in the hospital, you took care of both my children and made sure they were both calm about the emergency! When you invited my daughter to your baby shower out of town, I never knew I would be honored to let her go with you on Mother’s day weekend! Now, not only does my baby says your daughter is her big sister too, she also says she is a Big Sister to your baby! ♡♡♡
I also didn’t notice that sometimes it was okay to just let things happen. For me, it all had to be planned in order for things to work out! That sometimes you don’t have to stress over things, that as long as everyone was okay at the end of the day, it would all work out!
I finally noticed that I didn’t have to be a “Perfect Mother ” and even if I wasn’t, my kids would still turn out fine!
Thank you for helping me notice! !
*Mommy from MommyAndMinime@wordpress.com